I started this year like I start every year, I sit down with my wife and write my goals down – I don’t do resolutions because they never stick – but after I have written them down, we share. One of my many goals for this year was to spend less time on social media, less time watching TV and more time reading or doing something creative.
I felt like I was in a rut – coming home after work every day and doing the same ole thing, changing clothes, eating dinner, and watching TV till it was time to go to bed. I felt like I was wasting precious time. So, it was time for a change.
Camille and I have been married for two and a half years now. I’m always trying to think of different ways to date her instead of the typical dinner and a movie. If that’s your thing, then good for you! But I wanted to try and change it up a bit and do something different. Camille is super artistic. She can paint, draw, stitch, and do just about anything you ask her to do creatively.
I on the other hand can do none of those things. It’s actually kind of sad how not artistic I am. But in the spirit of pursuing her love language of quality time, I suggested that we get some dinner and then paint together. For her, this was right in her wheel house. For me, not so much.
I did the good husband thing and went to get some more canvas, seeing as she didn’t have anymore. This meant taking a trip to Hobby Lobby, and let me tell you something – I will never go back there by myself. It was one of the weirdest experiences of my life. I felt so out of place, not to mention waiting in line for an absurdly long amount of time.
Hobby Lobby is beside the point and it’s buried deep in the depths of my memory never to be revisited. Back to the important thing here – I made the move to creatively date my wife. Despite my total lack of artistic and creative ability in the art department, I pushed on through a territory that was uncharted to me.
I could tell how excited Camille was to show me everything there is to know about painting. I was happy just to see her eyes light up. I stared at the blank canvas for a long time before actually picking up a brush. I started doing the only thing I knew how – I painted the canvas solid black and then let it dry.
I glanced over and saw that Camille had started a long time ago while I was deep in thought about what to do. She had already picked up 3 different colors and started to blend and stipple them together. I watched in amazement of how easy and effortless it was for her.
I asked her what her favorite thing about painting was and she said, “I think I love to paint because its relaxing, but it also takes some critical thinking to figure out what colors you need, and what colors make what. It’s nice that it’s the only thing I have to think about.” I loved that. Even though it was relaxing for her, it was still something that was challenging – even though it didn’t look that way in the slightest.
I finally got the courage to add something to my canvas and began throwing paint around. Camille would lean over and ask if I wanted a tip, and she would coach me through it. I appreciated that, for I was lost in a world unfamiliar to me. This lead me down a path of thought I was altogether familiar and not, all at the same time.
When we step out of our comfort zone to learn something new it can often times be hard and well, frankly, uncomfortable. I believe though that when we do step out of that comfort we begin to stretch and grow. Think about the purpose of a rubber band. If a rubber band isn’t stretching it is not doing it’s job.
I feel the same is true for us. If we don’t begin to step out of our comfort zone more, then we wont grow. I think that is why I don’t make resolutions. I believe it’s easy for us to miss one day of a resolution and say, “Well maybe next year!” Goals, on the other hand, are all about growing and adding on to a long term achievement – not a quick fix.
I think this year should be a year of less. Less social media, TV and wasted time. Because when we commit to less time wasted on things that don’t matter, we commit to more time to achieve our goals and to stretch and grow.
I love what God revealed to me through this. We were created by the creator, so we are naturally given the need to create. In short, you were created to create. Step out of your comfort zone and begin to stretch yourself this year. Don’t wait to be a better version of yourself. Pursue it now!
I’m going to drop my goals here, and if you are like me and you are goal-driven, leave a comment in the box below and tell me what your goal is for this year!
Also, here is the painting that I did last night. It changed form and subject many times over until it essentially became… a lamp? You Tell me.
Goals for 2019:
- Less social media, TV
- Continue to read more – study topics other than what I feel comfortable with
- Continue eating well and working out
- Be a better husband
- Be a better pastor and friend